Have you ever been guilty of gossip? Or being a part of a conversation that tears another person down for no reason? We cannot serve in the body of Christ effectively, if we are constantly doing damage to our fellow laborers. Just like an army can’t win if it’s soldiers fight each other. The church will struggle if it’s members insist on fighting over petty things.
A lot of times, someone treats us in a wrong way and we get upset and complain to others about it. We say, "I can’t believe what ____ did to me the other day." Or perhaps a preacher says something that isn’t quite right, or his preaching isn’t that good. Instead of being thankful that we could hear the Word, we can become critical. Instead of striving to fix the problem, we focus on the negative and begin to gossip and backbite. I know I have been guilty of this. Have you?
The Bible speaks of our proper conduct several times. Ephesians 4:29 is a good example. It says, "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." Is your speech ministering grace? Is it edifying?
I would like to challenge you. Examine your speech. Do you speak good things? Or "Do you speak good?" If you are not, you need to change. God has commanded us to speak things that edify or "build up" others. No matter what someone has done to you, it does not outweigh what Christ has done for you. I would encourage you, forgive people. Ask Him to help you speak things that are good for building up those around you, not tearing them down.
"Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you." – Ephesians 4:31-32