Christianity is about who you are. The idea that Christianity is a long list of rules and regulations is completely false. Christianity isn’t about doing what Christ would do if it doesn’t require becoming like Christ. The rules, the spiritual “chores” of reading your bible and praying and doing good things don’t mean anything by themselves.
John 1:12 says, “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:”
Think about that for a moment, God doesn’t give people the power to “do good works” or “go to church on sunday.” He gives them power to become the sons of God. This is an entire transformation. It’s not about following God and pretending to be like Him. It’s about becoming a little more like Him ever day.
Matthew 5:48 says, “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” Again, the idea of being. Outward actions are only the measuring stick of our spiritual development. And yet even that is fallible. The Bible tells us that our Lord knows our hearts.
The real desire of God is to purify our hearts, not simply change our behavior. So remember that the next time you pray. Don’t ask God to help you to not do ____. Ask Him to transform you into a person who would consider such behavior unthinkable.
I would say the sooner we focus on who we are becoming vs what we are doing, the faster we will see our spiritual growth.